Thought of sharing this thought with you…. I was always the person who walks the whole nine yards in everything I did…. Putting effort and passion together to have a perfect outcome… It is rewarding somehow when you see the fruit of your effort in front of you… but do people around you really care??? Do they bother to see effectiveness and efficiency… or they are just filling the gaps and completing their papers “as we say in Arabic”I stayed for a long time trying to make people understand… but found out that they are stubborn enough to stop listening or watching things…. They reminded me of cracks we see in anything… like walls… glass… or floor…
I started seeing people in a different way… I started reading their “cracks”… which are different from a person to another… once you read their cracks… you can understand and value where do their ideas… and perception of life come from… and you will be able to deal with them accordingly…
Cracks are different and they might be in different locations… but at the end of the day… each one holds his/her crack… and tries to hide it with shields or mend it with temporary molds, that will soon be fallen down… but they never heal them, or try to see how to mend them from their roots.
I met people with brain cracks (the most dangerous unhealed kind of crack)… they just see life from a wrong paradigm… that makes them perceive everything as a wrong thing around them… those people “in my point of view” are introverts or at least people who hurt others in every step they walk… they do not see this… but in fact they do…
They are also judgmental… since they see things differently and they want things to go their way… and if not… then curses will be poured on life and people around them… You just need to avoid argumentative talks with them.. or taking their opinion… they will always see the empty part of the glass in everything….Heart cracks… this is the easiest crack to mend and heal… this is a temporarily crack… that affects the heart… usually through relationships… heart breaks… annoying circumstances (like death or sickness)…
We are blessed to be able to forget… and start all over again…
Defects from social standards and value… beliefs and environmental surrounding… leads to personality cracks…. This is a type where people have double standards in everything… they say something… and they do another thing… they convince you with ideas they will never apply…
This is due to inheriting wrong ideas… it is not easy to mend or heal… but by effort… exposure… and bitter experiences… they can flip all over… to a better shape… still some residues will remain at the bottom of the character…
People like this… need help and support… because they learn by experience… they go through hell and live in it... they are the victims of society in a way…
We all have cracks… we might have a combination of personality, heart and brain cracks… but the percentages are different….
We only need to know where our cracks are located… and try to mend instead of hiding them… to heal their wounds... instead of taking a temp. pain killer… clean them.. instead of staying with living residues….
We are only too weak to admit it… or to show it to others… we want to prove that we are always right and PERFECT… while perfection is not part of our reality…
I am not writing this to judge anyone… I am only stating a fact of life… I am one of the people who have cracks as well… I am just trying to figure them out to be able to fix them… As long as I live… I will keep on fixing them…
Good luck with finding your crack…
Have a nice day !!!!
7 comments:
Dear Riham,
it is first time for me to visite your blog,i visit a lot of egyptiong blogs, i find it a great one, you have a wonderful deep post about people and their craks, i am now at work when i go home i take the time to read it deeply, i an aan egyption guy who live since 12 years in holland i am a social worker and in egypt i studied germany in AL Alsun, i am also concerend about teh egyption soceity today and specily teh womensright, i would like to add you to my messengerlist if you do not mind. Have a nice day
Sherif Anwar Ahmed
Holland
Dear Riham,
I will not say every word, but as a linguist will say every "UTTERANCE" you have above uttered is very, very, true...
For which I commend you, and I guess that anyone who would read your complicated straight forward way of putting it together to form LIFE FACTS would too, I have realized from within your words the key to success; is what you are doing... and that anyone who is doing the same would be successful too.
I guess "LOOKING FOR CRACKS" is what it takes and success is determined to how much cracks one can identify & fill up...
Really R. nicely put, and if reflects it reflects the wisdom behind the speaker...
Mohamed Mourad
EGYPT
Riham,I couldnt find words to "reward" you for what you have written cos I'm afraid I wouldnt give you what you really deserve "as we say in Arabic" :)
You stated a very critical fact of a human being and that really exists in most of people we know and meet each day.
(Heart cracks… this is the easiest crack to mend and heal… this is a temporarily crack… that affects the heart… usually through relationships… heart breaks… annoying circumstances (like death or sickness)…
We are blessed to be able to forget… and start all over again..)
I wanted to mention that not all the heart cracks are able to heal, sometimes you fall in love, and you SIMPLY and INVOLUNTARILY start building hopes and dreams and live with them in reality, and when the time comes to get separated from your partner, you feel broken and unable to go on..
It's true that you'll survive and you're not gonna die after that experience, but surely the crack leaves a SCAR inside you, which is unable to heal..
The same goes for losing a dear person,you will gradually forget that pain and sorrow but you'll never forget the person and he'll be always in your heart.. Leaving a scar in your heart.
dear riham
as they all said above it is realy good i liked reading your blog...,
you should put in your concern that the major class in the egyptian society is stuck in their work and life they don't have time to stop and take a look at their actions analyzing it to know which crack they have. they just ignore it and focus on staying alive...
have a nice day.
Mahmoud karim
CRRRRRRAAAACKKKK CRRRRRRAAAAACKKKK, this is how it sounded while reading, cracking bells and thoughts, eventhough it was tooooo cracky but the way u present it kept me reading. would u plz. go deeper in the idea or the subject. I'll send a message in face book describing "my cracks" unless if you read it between these few lines.......
daer reham,,
i liked ur blog very much and personally i think it's true and actually i think there are cracks that we 'r unable to identify,, i think it's a preveilege to be able to identify these cracks and to heal'em ,,in egypt we'r missing the human's behaviour standard that we can measure on 'unfortuanatley' .i'm interested in hearing ur and everybody's suggesions on the ways we can heal'em without any bias
I seldom leave comments on blog, but I have been to this post which was recommended by my friend, lots of valuable details, thanks again.
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